Ryan Manning is a persona only able to exist in the 21^st Century blogosphere. His attention whore antics, flagrant theft of authors and sexual innuendoes have been filling the blog rolls since my first introduction to blogs almost 2 years ago. Amazingly, Ryan has never been called out for his behavior. I think people dismiss him as the little brother who is slow in mental capacity and clumsily claps his hands when excited.

He’s not a retard. He’s a narcissist. Here’s a blurb from http://www.narcissisticabuse.com/ :

Narcissism is categorized as a personality disorder by the mental health profession.  It is referred to as NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  Few are ever diagnosed because few go to therapy.   Narcissism is not high self-esteem, but a condition where the typical narcissist suffers from

• Preoccupation with hiding real or perceived flaws
• Overestimation of  importance, achievements, talents and skills
• Maladaptive attention seeking behavior
• Inability to empathize with others
• Excessive anger and shame in response to criticism often resulting in rage

The narcissist will often manipulate others, especially partners, to control them.  Projection and blame are hallmarks of this manipulation.  It is estimated that 85% of narcissists are males.

The sole item missing from the narcissistic abuse website definition is a picture of Ryan looking smarmy.

I will address each attribute with an example after the break.

Preoccupation with hiding real or perceived flaws

Mr. Manning is in his mid-twenties, resides in the confines of his mother’s basement and works slightly above minimum wage at the local coffee shop. He hides these facets from the general blog public. Using his writing as an example, one would think Ryan some sort of pussy getting super hero. His blog of various female manipulation methods (a post a day!) appears to be gone or hidden.

Overestimation of importance, achievements, talents and skills

Ryan’s modus operandi is extremely parasitic. His methodology of associating himself with Tao Lin (and now other writers) to feign importance is brilliant. I do applaud this particular skill. His leach tentacles are branching out towards Sam Pink lately. A “Sam Pink Intern” is on the horizon.

Maladaptive attention seeking behavior

Every molecule of Mr. Manning screams ‘LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!’ His misuse of Tao Lin quotes is legendary. Ryan is fond of skipping from blog to blog, leaving non-sequitur references to Tao Lin, usually devaluing the person’s blog by not addressing the actual post and waiting for the blogger to comment/email back out of confusion/hurt. I believe this ‘shot gun’ or ‘fish net’ approach is his most effective way of attention gathering/manipulation. Ryan feels no sympathy or pity after reading your latest post about your mother dying of cancer. Ryan wants you to know “the next night we ate whale” or “teenage girls will be preyed upon” because it has nothing to do with anything but garnering attention.

Inability to empathize with others

Recently Ryan created a blog-zine where he ‘interviewed’ bloggers asking a series of questions. 33% of the questions were about (did you guess it?) Ryan Manning. The remaining questions where vapid and nonsensical. I was amazed at how many people fell for the blatant manipulation. He fooled a blogger into thinking he was interested in their writing/personality, wanting to conduct an interview, turned the interview towards “Ryan Manning”, duplicated the effort several times, published it and then (this is the best part) got the authors to blog about being interviewed by Ryan Manning. I was in absolute awe of his manipulation skills.

The blog-zine is called THUNK.

Excessive anger and shame in response to criticism often resulting in rage

Ryan does show narcissistic rage when perceived as devalued or under-appreciated. The rage manifests itself in odd forms. Responding negatively to one of Ryan’s selfish non-sequitur comments, not linking him on your blog or ignoring his email/chat will induce his “narcissistic rage”.

Recently, Ryan made a passive aggressive comment towards me. It said ‘the lost art of motherfucking’. I turned it around and replied with ‘the lost art of fucking ryan manning’s mother’. The below email exchange ensued:

From ryan manning <beliefmask@gmail.com>

please stop writing things about my mother

my family has nothing to do with your negativity

i also encourage you to examine your perceptions

as you appear to be acting rather unconsciously

from Jereme Dean jdean33442@gmail.com

my negativity is completely my own accord.  who are you to say what can and cannot be subjects of my ‘negativity’?

you’re a meaningless knock knock joke.
maybe later i will put forth some effort into a reply.  probably not though.  you aren’t that important.
that old asian bitch who stole my seat on the train this morning holds more significance than you in my reality.

good talk little buddy.

tell mama manning ‘hello’.
bye.

From ryan manning <beliefmask@gmail.com>

please stop

from Jereme Dean jdean33442@gmail.com

i’ll stop when you stop little buddy.
what you fail to realize in your narcissistic haze is my ‘negativity’ towards you has always been a reaction to something you have done.
i suggest you sit down in your basement and analyze it, identify it and stop it.
don’t throw rocks at the pit bull if you don’t like getting bit.

high five

From ryan manning <beliefmask@gmail.com>

i will stop looking at your blog and refrain from posting comments on hmtl giant or anywhere else where i see your name, if that helps

i feel negative emotions toward you, and you appear to feel negative emotions toward me, though you have not told me the cause of it

i made a clear and simple request for you to not write about my family, and i suggested you might benefit from observing your actions

from Jereme Dean jdean33442@gmail.com

no that does not help.  you fail to realize what it is that you are doing.  sorry buddy, i’m not a teenage girl.  i am an adult.  i understand motivation.

i am glad you feel negative emotions towards me.  you are weak and disgust me.  each day i see your attention whore comments that you’ve ripped off of tao lin i think ‘why is he such a loser’.  why are you such a loser ryan?  i was hoping my being mean would motivate you to do something on your own.  create something of your own.  that would be nice.  that’s what i wanted for you.

i think you’ve realized this partially and have been trying.  it’s hard to discern what you have stolen and what is yours.  you are a copy of a bad vhs recording of a made for tv movie shown on lifetime.

who says your request was not clear or simple?  i didn’t.  I also know what you ‘suggested’.  don’t act like a smarmy retard.  your neutrality is fake. i  can tell.

whatever.  be a scared little bitch crying over nothing.  i don’t care.  you are small like a button to me.  you are meaningless.

i am not judging you on what some one has told me like you think.  that’s not it at all.  sorry little buddy.

i’m judging you on your actions as a whole.  you are weak and sad.  you are an 80 year old man’s withered cock.

i just shake my head at you most of the time.  sometimes though, you forget i’m not scared to speak my mind like all the other people who talk shit behind your back and say ‘poor ryan’ to your face.

i’m the real deal.

here’s a clear and simple request.  go fuck yourself and stop leaving sexual comments to teenage girls on their blog.

or is that different than me saying ‘the lost art of fucking your over bearing mommy’?

i don’t think so.

okay there’s your response.  at least i gave you enough respect to act as who i am and not some fake neutral tone smug prick.

yeah that would be you.

low five

Don’t let suckerfish manipulate you dear reader. You are in charge of your own actions/reactions. Start acting accordingly.

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